Tuesday, April 29, 2008

The agreement

Here's the agreement between Mistress Melissa and myself.  It's a trial, two-week agreement that we've both agreed to commit to, no matter what.  After two weeks, we'll re-evaluate the agreement and make changes if needed.  Please leave your comments if you have any insight to share.

Submission Contract

**________ hereinafter referred to as Submissive, does of his own free will, and being of sound mind and body, offer himself in consensual Submission to Mistress Melissa **______, hereinafter referred to as Mistress, for the period beginning at midnight on April 29th, 2008 and ending at midnight on May 12th, 2008.

Purpose

The purpose of this Submissive contract is to instill all that such servitude implies. This contract is written to make clear the expectations of Mistress and the consequences for failure to live up to this agreement. This agreement shall serve as the basis for an extension of the relationship between Mistress and Submissive. Both are committed to promoting health and happiness and improving both lives in the spirit of loving and consensual Dominance and submission, with the intention of furthering self-awareness and exploration. Submissive desires that virtue be a significant part of this relationship.

Therefore it is agreed that fundamental to his Submission will be the practices of the virtues of trust, honesty, openness, loyalty and obedience. Without the practice of these virtues in this relationship to Mistress, there can be no true Submission. Their practice therefore, is expected and required at all times. These terms and conditions are set forth as a formal way of defining the rules by which both enter into this safe, sane and consensual relationship. With a signature, both Mistress and Submissive agree and accept that these terms and conditions cannot be altered in any way except by mutual consent.

Duties of Servitude

1. It is the duty of Submissive to please Mistress.

2. Personal duties will include the physical/ emotional needs of Mistress, amusement, sexual toy/plaything, physical comfort, waiting on Mistress as desired and needed.

3. Submissive is required to obey all commands given by Mistress within the constraints of this document.

4. Submissive agrees to show an attitude of respect at all times. Disrespect is a serious offense and will not be taken lightly.

5. Respect includes manner of speech, promptness, proper answers, obedience, loyalty and honesty.

6. Respect and obedience are the two most important aspects of attitude. Failure will result in punishment.

7. Submissive shall pay full attention to Mistress when spoken to.

8. Submissive will sit, stand, walk, kneel and lay where, when and how Mistress desires.

9. Training is the prerogative of Mistress and Her decision alone, as are the type, style and pace.

10. The attention of Submissive is to be focused on Mistress unless She commands otherwise.

11 Submissive shall conduct himself to never bring shame or embarrassment to Mistress' name or reputation. Mistress will also conduct herself in a manner that will not bring embarrassment or shame to submissive in a public or work environment setting.

12. Submissive will strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibitions that interfere with his capability to serve Mistress and limit his growth as Mistress' submissive.

13. Submissive shall reveal his thoughts, feelings and desires without hesitation or embarrassment.

14. Submissive shall inform Mistress of wants and perceived needs, recognizing that Mistress is the sole judge of whether or how these shall be satisfied.

15. Submissive shall strive toward maintenance of a positive self- image and development of realistic expectations and goals.

16. Submissive shall work against negative aspects of his ego and insecurities that would interfere with advancement of these aims.

17. Submissive shall make every attempt not to “out” Mistress to those outside the D/s lifestyle, including family and friends, except by mutual consent. No one outside the D/s community is to know about the agreement between Submissive and Mistress, unless both Submissive and Mistress agree.


Availability

1. Submissive will be unconditionally available to Mistress during agreed-upon arrangements outside of work hours.

2. Submissive agrees to please Mistress to the best of his ability.

3. Submissive agrees that his body belongs to Mistress, to be used as She sees fit within the guidelines defined by this agreement.

4. Submissive agrees that Mistress possesses the right to determine whether others can use his body and what use they may put it to. Mistress will discuss all such instances in advance with Submissive, to be certain that such play with others will not violate any established limits.

5. Due to the extreme physical danger inherent in unprotected sexual activity, both Mistress and Submissive shall practice safer sexual practices with others.


Safewords

1. Submissive is allowed safewords in all activities when necessary and trusts implicitly in Mistress to respect the use of said safewords.

2. If a condition arises in which the Submissive needs to use a safeword, Mistress will assess the situation and determine an appropriate course of action. Caution: YELLOW, Stop: RED

3. Once Submissive has recovered, the issues causing the use of the safeword will be discussed and a mutual arrangement for the future will be agreed upon.

4. Submissive agrees to feel pain within reasonable limits.


Mistress’s Rules of Discipline

1. Submissive will not accept or invite any act of discipline from anyone but Mistress. Any such attempts will be brought to the attention of Mistress as quickly as possible. In this area, Submissive has Mistress’ express permission to resist any such attempts with any means at hand.

2. The method and type of discipline, with the exception of physical and mental abuse, is at the sole discretion of Mistress.

3. Mistress will use Her good judgement and fairness in deciding on the form of discipline, taking Submissive’s limitations into consideration.

4. Submissive will keep an accurate record of both the act that created the need for discipline and the punishment that was earned.

5. When physical discipline is applied (includes hands, flogger, crop, etc.) Submissive will count out loud the number of strokes he is to receive and express his thanks to Mistress for Her attention. If Submissive loses track of the count, the count will begin from the start.

6. Once the discipline has been completed, Submissive will be forgiven and the cause forgotten.

7. All discipline will be fair and not without cause. If Submissive has displeased Mistress as a result of Mistress not being clear on Her rules and/or instructions, then no discipline is justified or will be given.


Special Conditions / Hard Limits

At NO time will the physical relationship involve the following:

1. children

2. animals

3. abuse (mental or physical)

4. scat

5. life-threatening

6. body mutilation (including piercing, tattoos and branding).

7. blood play

8. homosexual (male/male) contact


Family will always come first. There will be NO exceptions.


Mistress Responsibilities

1. Protect and defend the honor and name of Submissive.

2. Try to insure that Submissive does not ignored or neglected.

3. Maintain an honest and faithful relationship with Submissive.

4. To assume absolute and total control of Submissive's mind, soul and body, and therefore his development into the true submissive he desires to be.

5. Make every attempt not to “out” Submissive to those outside the D/s lifestyle, including family and friends, except by mutual consent. No one outside the D/s community is to know about the agreement between Submissive and Mistress, unless both Submissive and Mistress agree.

6. At all, times and in all ways, to look after the physical well-being of Submissive. Exercise safe and sane practices, and do not attempt forms of play with which are hazardous to the Submissive unless She is confident in her ability to ensure his safety.

7. Although Submissive’s body belongs to Mistress, Mistress’s body is Her own, and is not subject to any limitations on who else may use it. However, due to the intimacy and respect that Mistress and Submissive share, Mistress will inform Submissive of any and all physical / sexual encounters with others, in advance, if possible.


I, Submissive **_____, offer my submission to Mistress Melissa **_____ under the terms stated above on this the _____ day of _____ in the year _____.

Signature of submissive ________________________________



I, Mistress Melissa **_______, offer my acceptance of Submissive’s submission under the terms stated above on this the _____ day of _____ in the year _____.

Signature of Dominant ________________________________

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